I'm a humanist, maybe Freudian!!

Dictionaries define "Humanism" as the belief that you can be happy and live without the need of religion". However, it would take you a prolonged instant to take a deeper dig about the theory.

According to this theory, humans are driven to achieve their maximum potential and will always do so unless obstacles are placed in their way.  These obstacles include hunger, thirst, financial problems, safety issues, or anything else that takes our focus away from maximum psychological growth.

The best way to describe this theory is to utilize the famous pyramid developed by Abraham Maslow (1970) called the Hierarchy of Needs.  Maslow believed that humans have specific needs that must be met and that if lower level needs go unmet, we can not possible strive for higher level needs.  The Hierarchy of Needs shows that at the lower level, we must focus on basic issues such as food, sleep, and safety.  Without food, without sleep, how could we possible focus on the higher level needs such as respect, education, and recognition?

Throughout our lives, we work toward achieving the top of the pyramid, self actualization, or the realization of all of our potential.  As we move up the pyramid, however, things get in the way which slow us down and often knock us backward.  Imagine working toward the respect and recognition of your colleagues and suddenly finding yourself out of work and homeless.  Suddenly, you are forced backward and can no longer focus your attention on your work due to the need for finding food and shelter for you and your family.

According to Maslow, nobody has ever reached the peak of his pyramid.  We all may strive for it and some may even get close, but no one has achieved full self-actualization.  Self-actualization means a complete understanding of who you are, a sense of completeness, of being the best person you could possibly be.  To have achieved this goal is to stop living, for what is there to strive for if you have learned everything about yourself, if you have experienced all that you can, and if there is no way left for you to grow emotionally, intellectually, or spiritually.

Sigmund Freud also demonstrated his theory of motivation;psychoanalytic theory. As part of this theory, he believed that humans have only two basic drives: Eros and Thanatos, or the Life and Death drives.  According to Psychoanalytic theory, everything we do, every thought we have, and every emotion we experience has one of two goals: to help us survive or to prevent our destruction.  This is similar to instinct theory, however, Freud believed that the vast majority of our knowledge about these drives is buried in the unconscious part of the mind.

Religion has always been the intangible conscious in every part of us; that's when religion is there for ushering regulations. May be Maslow didn't imply in his theory the case point in religion but he might have intended to include its regulation in a non-utopian human who would never reach perfection aka "Actualization". Al least, that's my own outcome. Work hard, achieve, yearn for your goal  and crave for your dream; else, lose your life.

“As long as I have a want, I have a reason for living. Satisfaction is death.” George Bernard Shaw

Baby Feminist

On one mild school day, our kindergarten mistress asked the senior students to fill the pace of the schoolyard and clap hands and cheer for the KG pupils on their costume party celebrating the Easter.

Busy clapping, I observed how boys and girls in KG act according to their sexes. Is it really hormones and physiology that impose women to be recessive?  It's not an inquiry for me, only a private interest to observe people's patterns of behaviors and affiliate their behaviors to traditions society tackled.

Surprisingly, or unsurprisingly, there was neither a dominant nor a recessive behavior that would distinguish a girl from a boy. In proportional ratio, girls were as energetic and lively as boys were. Oh man! Girls weren't nagging at a deck and crying "mammy, mammy, where is she?!"

And watch it out! I neither demonstrate God's differences in creation nor inquire mere equality deceasing feminine in a woman.

 However, I have a clue.

Feminist theories don't have to imply equality. But also don't have to imply underestimating the success of females or ridicule the fair sex by despising them.

Why should a woman be at blame for having ambitions for success? What's wrong with a woman whose dreams are not relevant to marriage? Why it is a woman's vice being ambitious or strong? Why will she always have to claim a pretext or act subtle for seeking a target of her own? Why can't men "yield" to confess a woman's success as if it would lessen his manhood bowing for her achievements? For what reason should the young butterflies I met at my schoolyard be suppressed as they bloom?

Society is enough passive bringing up inferior futile women embedding in ladies the notion that they are born only for recessive functions.

Sexual harassment and assault had become a daily basis routine that we could barely distinguish. Surprisingly, women are the ones to be blamed for men's excruciation.

And if you advocate women's rights, you would be censured and alleged a "feminist". A feminist is not born a feminist! He/she should have been born in social stipulations that triggered him/her to move or whatever you name it.

Will we put our heads into the peephole and assume to live a conventional life regardless of satisfaction or achievements? If society continues to underestimate women and perceive feminists or women's rights advocates as committers of obscenity, even men won't antecede…Cheers, cheers.